Celebration of KIT's 30th birthday

Hi hi, everyone! It’s a special month for me!!

while I advocate for celebrating all of life everyday, on the occasion of a birthday I choose to make the celebration about a single personal life. spending time with family and friends is so important to me but often life gives us countless excuses to skip celebrations. Birthdays are one of the best "excuses" to celebrate someone you love!

It is the day your existence began in this reality. The day countless people have been waiting for, just think of how many family members daydreamed about their great great great great grandchild and how they would change this world. how much time was spent aching to birth you into existence? Your birthday was built on so many souls calling to you and begging to just hold you in their arms.

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Why do we forget that? I try my best everyday to show those I love how I appreciate that I am no longer aching to have them in my life. They have chosen to be in my life, maybe to cease their own aching, maybe to calm mine. As long as they are here it doesn't really matter.

What matters to me is the effort put fourth to build and create a reality we can co exist in blissful harmony. My soul has called to them throughout time and will forever call out to them. It just depends how much they remember of our connection and love and how much effort they put fourth to build with me. I love how polyamory allows me to build a variety of relationships. especially since I came from a place of social isolation.

i have grown a lot in my human interactions! I'm proud of me!

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I've learned how much being at a lake fuels my soul and I wanted to share that with those I love. I was so happy that everyone who came to celebrate my birthday felt moved by something that day. To be surrounded by so many bright souls dancing to their own beat is destined to create something beautiful.

we were able to spend the entire day lake front, AJ brought me a hammock to swing weightlessly, the food was better than any catering service, there was a playground for the younger kiddos too. the views were amazing from every angle.

The absolute best part of my birthday on the lake was having both of my partners lovingly interact with my family!

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I was beyond blessed to spend my day celebrating love and life with some of those closest to me. My partners AJ and Alex worked together to create the perfect day, with a little help from universal guidance. We rented a shelter at falls lake state park and planned to stay the whole day.

AJ had recently popped the big question, "can I meet your son?" We have been "dating" over a year now. I know his heart is that of a father and he loves children. I also know he has been left hurting from opening his heart to another in the past. I did not want to push him towards anything, I wanted to allow him the space to advocate if and when he desired more between us. I was so excited when he shared that he wanted to meet my son. He liked AJ right away and it probably helped that AJ brought food to the party my son is a biiiggg foodie!

My friend from high school also made it with her daughter, my goddaughter. I loved seeing her and Raiden play! My friend and I have been through a lot and have always been there for each other. She was the first person I felt comfortable sharing my poly heart with. The first person to openly accept me and not judge or damn me. I will forever be thankful for her ability to love. I think she would say the same about me, and that is why our friendship has lasted so long. mutual recognition and appreciation.

Alex and I had the kids spend the night. I have known that my nephew and Alex would really connect, it just had not been time, but watching as Alex's relationship with my nephew blossomed so quickly made my heart sing. I especially loved seeing how his relationship with my son also benefitted from the relationship with my nephew. My niece and I are so much alike, it was so nice to nerd out with her. She is always looking for her next art project, just like me.

I haven't talked about my niece and nephew online yet, but they both are huge pieces of my heart. They were what truly began to spark life into my heart. I remember i was always too "hard shelled" before them. Especially emotionally closed off, the only emotion i could express correctly was anger. Now look at me!! You will hear more about them and what I see within them through my blogging I'm sure.

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Birthdays are also a tool for self reflection. That is one reason I believe many people avoid celebrating their birthdays, and exactly why I love to! Self reflection is what has pushed me to heal and what has helped me remember how far I have come! sometimes life gives you so much more than you asked for. its your choice if you are capable of that abundance. will you choose to accept it?

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OH AND...

Look how sweet these boys are! This one gift is so many love languages in one perfectly captured moment. They spoke acts of service, they gave quality time, the photo provides me with affirmations (which i will hold dear to me while AJ is away vagabonding), the sweetest double kiss put the icing on the cake!

I am so lucky to have people who know me and see me so well. The support and love built from these relationships has been a beautiful one to witness. I am super duper lucky ducky to have two boyfriends who spoil me!

Tell us what this photo says to you!

Remember, Love is Everywhere

- <3 KIT